Would you know how?

If you knew you found the one, would you know what to do or how to keep them around?

 

This world has become so infested with filth every where that it is ruining relationships and marriages. It has now become so easy to cheat with just one text message and then delete it like nothing happened. This world has changed so much over the past few years on outlooks of relationships and marriage and what cheating actually is. My thing is if you are deleting messages or hiding things from your significant other, you are already there. Back in the day you used to just have to worry if the other is having an affair with their secretary at work. Now you have tons of people who don't respect any kind of relationship who think it's ok to message them and tell them how they feel when you shouldn't! Even if the other doesn't find out, you should still feel a ton of guilt. It's sad when one tries so hard to make the other happy and the other doesn't even try.

 

So back to my question, if you knew you found the one, would you know what to d or how to keep them around? Another could be added would you want to keep them around or just screw around on them and make them never wanna be with you again? People don't wait forever especially if you hurt them in any way. Talking to another person of the opposite sex isn't a big deal but don't delete the message and don't talk about things you shouldn't be talking about. Don't get on porn site because that just makes the other person feel degraded and as they aren't doing enough. Don't get on dating websites, which why would you do that in a relationship anyways? Most importantly don't cheat. Physically. It's so sad to see relationships fall apart by all these sad and stupid reasons.

 Life is too short to lose the ones you love over selfish reasons.

 

If you know you've found the one but it's the wrong timing, would you have the guts to tell them the truth? Dragging someone along just for the fun of it isn't fair to the other person. Don't keep them around just because they are happy. If you are unhappy let the person know. Honesty is the best policy. If you know you've found the right one and it's the wrong timing, you're risking losing that person forever.

 

I just like to see happy couples and successful couples. In this day and age it's hard but if you know you found the one, don't lose them and don't hurt them. Losing trust is the hardest thing to get back. A simple hurtful thing can hurt the worst and take years to get back the trust. Think wisely, love deeply, trust strongly, and never lose faith.

 

 

My thoughts for the day :)

 

Much love

~K

Different things

Some times the slightest things can make you realize a lot of things.

We went and saw About Last Night on Saturday and movies kinda make you re-evaluate things. To me it was my relationship with my husband. Some days we obviously don't have the best relationship and some days it's all fine and dandy. A relationship is something that needs work. Not just from you and not just from him. It has to be from both of you. Being married young brings lots of challenges. 

Trying to please every one has always been my challenge. I love pleasing my husband and it used to be my mom and me for so long, I feel like I still need to please her too. We went to marriage counseling and the counselor said I'm a people pleaser, which is true! I love my mom to death and of course I want to please her but some times I just can't and that's just it. Some times we can't please every one. I know some day Kendrix will most likely disappoint us but it's not going to make us think differently of him. We love no matter the circumstances. That's what God wants us to do.

I look to different people for certain things. Advice wise I usually go to my mom or Micah or my cousin it just really depends on what it's about. But some times we just need to go to the person that it may be about. It'll help so much more and you'll be happier in the end. Sorry I'm just rambling. I haven't posted in a while since it was my birthday and all but I've had a lot on my mind! Thank you for being patient with me. 

Much love 

~K Thompson 

Happy Valentine's Day!

Happy Valentine's Day to you all! 

It shouldn't take one day out of the year to show how much you care about the one you love. Yes, flowers and candies are a good gesture but shouldn't you get them more than one time a year? Showing you love someone is much more than just flowers or gifts. Your actions say a lot. When Micah wakes up and takes care of Kendrix for a few more minutes so I can wake up. That's a way you can show you care about someone. He knows how I hard I work at times so he does little things like that to show he cares and appreciates me. The same goes for him. I know he has school and practice so I try to get Kendrix to take his naps around the time he gets out of practice. Playing his favorite video game or just giving random hugs or kisses. 

You don't have to spend money on your love to show you love them. I don't think it should take one day out of the year to show how much you love someone. I think it should be shown all the time. Public and private. Yes, Valentine's day is a very special day to some but I've received Micah's love for about 5 amazing years and he never fails to show me he loves me every day. 

The best way he's ever shown his love for me was giving me our son. Last Valentine's day was Kendrix's first Valentine's day and we went to the Ft. Worth zoo as a family and had a blast. This year we don't really have anything planned and I'm perfectly fine with that. I love sitting around and cuddling with my family. You learn to appreciate the little things.

I hope every one has a great day but remember, show the one you love how much you love and care about them every day. Not just on Valentine's Day! It will mean so much more in the long run.

Much Love,

~K Thompson

 

Be The One..

Be the person you were when your spouse fell in love with you.

When we get married and have children, we seem to forget the person we were when we met our spouse. We get so cause up in our wifely or motherly duties, we forget about our husbands. We forget to do the things that made our spouse fall in love with us. For example, the little things. Sending them a text message during the day to let them know you were thinking about them and that you love them. I know when Micah and I first got together, I used to text him every opportunity I got so he always knew I loved him and was always thinking of him. Making him feel special. During the days now, it's just filled with cleaning and making sure Kendrix is taken care of. I don't text him as much as I used to during the times he's away because I just forget. I get busy. It's kinda sad actually. 

We wait so long to find the man of our dreams. Sadly, we when we find him, we stop doing the things we were doing when we fell in love. Guys are just as guilty at this as we are. I think when Micah and I first got together we seemed to go crazy of each other. I was in such amazement with him over every single thing he did to or for me. I would ALWAYS want to be around him. Always would want to talk to him if we were apart. Always wanted to hear him talk, sing, laugh, or smile. Always wanted to feel his huge arms around me. I've strayed away from all that. Now that we got married, I can honestly say I've forgotten to be the woman I was when we fell in love. I want to get back to that.

We need to get back into doing the little things for our husbands. Saying we love you during the day. Kiss him passionately just because. Jump for joy when they get home. Get sad when they have to leave. Get dressed up for him. Get sexy at night. Make him want YOU. Make him remember why he fell in love with you. You'd be amazed how much your marriage or relationship will change. Stop nagging him constantly. I have to take my own advice on this cause I nag a bunch.. Stop bringing up past situations. Stop being insecure with your self. He chose YOU over every one. You married this wonderful man, so show him you love him and appreciate him. This is your life now, with him. Make it the best it can be so he'll never wanna leave. Make him proud to call you his wife. 

Have a fabulous day!

Much Love,

~K Thompson

Love of my life & I, 3 years ago <3

This won't be me anymore..

To be honest, my week was far from perfect. With that being said, I am FAR from perfect.

I learned in the course of this week I can be very selfish. I am sharing these things because I don't want any of y'all to ever go down this path. 

When it comes to my marriage, I don't think about my husbands needs some times. I jump to conclusions way to fast and easy. I probably nag more than I should. Maybe I ask too from of my him. I try to pick fights which I can honestly say I do not know why. It solves NOTHING. 

Seeing all these typed down, I feel terrible. I have got to learn from my mistakes. Which it can be done people. I know if I want to keep my marriage lively and well, some things have got to be done. Am I saying I have an awful marriage? No. It just some times can be dysfunctional at times. Am I saying I'm a bad wife? No not all the time. There are just things I know I can work on. Am I the only one that has to work on things? Probably not but I would never tell him what needs to be changed. Never try and change a person. 

In my eyes, my husband is perfect. Maybe even too perfect if that's even possible. Yes we both make mistakes but who doesn't? We just start to lose ourselves and don't really know how to start back up some times.  

Some thing I need to work on is loving more like Jesus does. Unconditional.Forgiving. I need to start praying more and getting my nose in my bible. I just always want every one to be happy especially when it comes to my marriage. I am very privileged to have a husband like mine. He lets me stay home with our son and watch him grow. He understands that I don't really know how to cook but eats my food anyways. He does little things that just make me fall in love with him all over again.

We were away from each other for two weeks and that contributes to my over reacting and things like that. I just start to miss him and hope he feels the same way I do. That's what scares me most is the unknown. I just have to trust him and trust God that every thing is always going to be okay.

With all this being said, don't judge me. I'm a young married mother with a hectic life. I will continue to strive to be the best wife and mother I can be. I refuse to be the reason why our marriage ever suffers. Don't be the reason for anything. Fights, drama ANYTHING. Do your best to be the best for him. You made vows so cherish them and abide by them. Love your spouse like The Lord loved his son. Don't forget to give him attention just like you do your children. Be the one he fell in love with.

Much Love

~K Thompson

God Has Blessed Me

First off, it's cold. Don't really know if I can think straight this morning. Just kidding. I gotta cause it's only Kendrix and me in the house. My mom finally comes home tomorrow and I'm so excited! I've missed her so very much. Praying for a safe trip back.

Lots of things have been on my mind today. As I'm watching my sweet innocent child run around messing up the house that I just cleaned, God has blessed me with him. God has blessed me with lots of things. A wonderful family, amazing husband, and some pretty awesome friends. The life that Micah and I live, is anything but ordinary. We travel back and forth between Oklahoma and Texas a lot. Probably more than we should. Micah takes on a lot down in Texas. Not only does he have a family he has to care and provide for, he has a 15 hour class schedule, study hall in the evenings, and football on the daily. If you're wondering how our schedules go, it goes something like this. Monday's we're pretty lucky because he has a night class from 6 to 8:50. During the day we pretty much have him to ourselves except for work outs every week day from 12:30 to around 3. Tuesdays and Thursdays he has class from 8 to about 11. Study hall Tuesday nights and Wednesday nights. Kendrix gets naps based around his schedule because I try to ensure Micah gets as much time as he can with Kendrix. On Tuesdays at our library they have a session called Toddler Time. Kendrix and I go to that with one of our friends who has a little boy a few months younger than Kendrix and her husband was also on the football team. Micah also has a couple of online classes. I also have two online classes I'm taking. I usually do my homework when Kenny takes a nap or when every one has fallen asleep at night. So there is a little day in the life of us. Pretty hectic huh?

Although we have a crazy life, I wouldn't trade it for the world. I love being down in Texas because it's our own life. We don't have any one to depend on but each other. Not our parents just us. I've grown up so much since I moved down there a year ago. Most teens my age don't move that far away from home unless they go to college. I did it so my little family could all be together. Like a good mom and wife should do. God has blessed me with this opportunity to grow stronger in my faith and stronger with my little family. I thank God every day for my husband, son and family. My life is awesome and I owe it all to Him.

Don't forget to thank God for the things you are thankful for. 

Thank you all for reading and supporting us.

Much Love,

~K

Just a little silly pic of us :)

A letter to My Husband

I know times right now are hard for us. We get so caught up in taking care of our son, we forget to love each other. Some days are easier than others. I think we tend to forget where we started from and why we are where we are. With out you, I wouldn't have this wonderful life you've given me. 

The definition of us started on a June summer day in 2010 at a theme park called Frontier City in Oklahoma. You were working the wild cat which happened to be my favorite ride. You had your blue shirt sleeves rolled up so I could see your yummy muscles. You flirted with me a bunch. Saying you wouldn't check my seat or opening the door for a beautiful girl. I'm sure you remember what I was wearing because you used to tell me all the time. I was way to shy to ask for your number so my friend did for me and I thought you gave me a fake number. If you would've done that, we wouldn't be anywhere we are now. Luckily it wasn't a fake number and it seemed we were inseparable ever since. 

I have so many wonderful memories with you. I can't wait till we share them with our son. From running over that snake in Jones and your football games your senior year to laying on the truck bed watching the stars with you. My most favorite memory of all was our wedding. Our small but perfect wedding. Our vows, our kiss, our love. As we were bonded together as one I never thought we'd be where we are now. Happy in our little one bedroom apartment in Texas. Another favorite is when our son was born. On July 24, 2012 our lives changed forever. Seeing you hold our little guy melted my heart and I cried happy tears. Then and there I knew you'd be a great father. Thank you for staying with us for two weeks right before two a days started. That really took a lot out of you, I know. 

You do so much for Kendrix and me and we never get the chance to really thank you. We do thank you for all you do for us. You've given us the best life in our situation. Some days I forget how much you do for us. Sometimes when you get home I get happy because I get a break from Kenny but really I should be happy because you are home and I get some time with you. I'm sorry for forgetting little things like that.You are the man that helped create our family and I should never forget that. Without you, I would have nothing. 

Thank you for helping me create our crazy life but I wouldn't have it any other way. If I get to caught up in being a mother, stop me and tell me. Time with you is precious to me because I don't get it very often. Thank you again for all you do for us. You're amazing.

With all this being said, let us not forget the man that helped us create our little ones or the life you have. Let them know you appreciate them today. When they come home be happy and jump in their arms. They'll love it. Don't forget to love your husband just like you did before the kids came along. You didn't make your kiddos alone! Appreciate your spouse for they do a lot for you. I understand getting so caught up in parenting, we forget to do so. Start appreciating today!

Much Love

~K

When in Doubt...

Pray it Out & Turn to God.

 

Are you having a tough day or can't seem to stop stressing over little things or even big things? I know I do sometimes and have family that does a lot. My solution, turn to God. Give him your problems and have faith that He will help you through. Praying all the time helps me in the worst of situations. I have anxiety really bad. Especially when Kendrix came along. I had never been more scared to do certain things in every day life. It had been a time that I forgot about my faith. I forgot about the one who helps me through so much. I'm pretty sure I had never prayed so hard. Praying hels eliminating your mind from the things you're worried about. Trust me.

 

The Lord died on the cross for you and me so we may have hope of eternal life with Him in Heaven. He wants us to strive to be more like Him every day. Praying, praching His word, leading people to Him. He is the reason we are even here people! Your little child sitting in your lap or playing in his room? God blessed you with that child. He blesses you every day with things you don't even realize you've been blessed with! Your husband or wife? Did you ever pray when you were younger to find the one you've been searching for for so long? I know I did. Especially when it felt all my hopes and dreams were just shattered. I know my husband and son are blessings from God and I thank Him every day for sending them to me. They saved my life.

 

Your little ones will benifit from praying too. My little Kendrix prays all the time with us. It brings tears to my eyes because I know he learned that from watching me. Kids really do watch every thing you do.

 

But seriously people. People need The Lord and it's up to us to lead them there. Praying daily will help you in your day to day struggles. It's actually very theraputic to know you always have someone to talk to. He doesn't talk back but he sure listens. Give Him all your problems and he will help you through them. Don't stray away from the one who gave you life. Be strong in your faith. You know what you're doing. I promise!

 

Much Love

~K

A little something for the young lovers

Every thing in marriage does not come easy. Being a young married couple we know all about that. Having all odds against us and people wanting us to fail is always fresh on my brain.

In our vows we have for better or for worse. When my husband and I got married, he was 19 and I was 18. We had no idea what we were really getting ourselves into. We don't really listen to the vows that are exchanged. We just want the kiss and to be officially married. I get that. We were the same way. Looking back at our vows we have for better or for worse. Vows are sacred and are meant to be kept. When times get tough, we have to stick it out. We are just now learning how to really communicate with each other. When times got tough I used to think divorce would just be so much better. Now that I look at it I was stupid for ever thinking that.

COMMUNICATE with your partner people! When you are angry with your spouse, don't start talking right away. Make a code word and you two go in separate rooms and think about what you're going to say. If you do that, you won't say things you don't mean. Ours is bubbles if any one was wondering. Talk about things as they come to mind unless you're angry. Communication is key for a successful marriage. People aren't kidding when they tell you this.

When you have all odds against you for being a young family, you just want to prove them all wrong. Getting married so young and having a child in the mix sets us up for failure. That's just what people think. We know we're beating all odds. We have been. Micah taking 15 hours of school a semester and everything for football with a child and wife is out of the ordinary. Us moving two and a half hours away from our home town to start our family isn't something you see teen married couples do. I knew moving down to Texas with Micah for school was the best option for our family. We just want what's best for us and our son.

Our marriage is far from perfect but it's my kind of perfect.

Have a wonderful day!
~K

You & your body are beautiful

Maybe I'm insecure but who isn't? I have stretch marks from when the little one was in my tummy and gained weight from being pregnant. My hair isn't long and pretty like I'd like it to be. The girl next to me in the grocery line has three kids and is a twig. Why couldn't that be me?

Everyone's body is different. My body was my son's home for 9 months. Every stretch mark has a meaning to me. Every movement he ever had in my tummy every hiccup and kick. Even now that he's out they still have meaning. Yes i gained weight but I'm okay with that. Every insecurity about my body is what makes me unique. Apparently my husband thought the same thing because he married me. My husband does care about my stretch marks or my muffin top. He cares about what makes me, me. Me as in a woman. Maybe he does care about them though because they are what makes me who I am today. His wife and mother to our child. I'm the same person he fell in love with on the inside but maybe changed a little on the outside. He loves me for me and that's all that matters.

So ladies stop comparing yourself. You're beautiful in every way. Don't let any one tell you different. & your insecurities are what make you beautiful. You rock and don't ever change.

Much love
~K

Just some thoughts

My week is about to get so crazy. My mom, aunt, and grandparents are going to Hawaii and I have to house sit here in Oklahoma for two weeks. TWO WEEKS PEOPLE! Two weeks without my husband here with me. It truly sucks. How do some wives stay away from their husbands for weeks or even years?! I'm going crazy and it's only been a few hours! Luckily I've got our little man with me. If your husband has to go away for a while or vice versa how do you cope? I think lots of chocolate is in store for me!

I was reading a blog earlier about how before we became mommies we were his. His as in your husband. That post to me really hit me because it's true. We get so caught up in taking care of and giving our full attention to our children, we forget about the man who helped give you those precious children. Our husband's deserve as much attention that we give our children. That's something I totally need to work on.

Sorry for a short post but I haven't posted in a while cause I'm computer less this week. So it's all off my phone. :) have a good night everyone! 

Much love

~K

Bragging Rights

Sooooo I just have to brag about our son last night. When it was time to go night night he usually gets into bed with us. Well last night he climbed into his bed. Micah and I thought well this won't last but we covered him up anyways and gave him his Mickey Mouse. I usually have to sing to him to get him to go to sleep but last night I didn't have to! He fell asleep in his own bed like a big boy! We were so impressed. My little boy isn't so little anymore. We are so proud of our Kendrix.

On another not, Micah and I are doing wonderful. We've been taking marriage counseling and it has been helping us tremendously. I was very skeptical of doing counseling at first but it can really change you and your marriage. I feel like we now are both better people and parents because of it.

We are now on the hunt to get Micah a job. We feel it is probably easier for him to get a weekend job since his days are all booked up with class, football, and study hall. If anything else maybe a night job but we shall see. Which ever he gets we will be happy!

I haven't had my computer because I left it in Oklahoma when we went to go visit my mom so that's why I haven't posted much in a while. But hopefully I can keep up with this now.

Today we have a fun filled day.We were gonna take Kendrix to go see Frozen but I think we might go to the Ft. Worth Zoo instead since it's so nice out today! We'll see what Micah says when he gets home from workouts. hehe. Have an awesome day y'all!

Much love
~Kira

For starters...

I clearly have no idea how to make a blog "pretty." But at least I tried.

Well a little bit about The Thompson's, there are three of us in this Thompson clan. So many more in the world, we know. "Oh are you related to so and so Thompson?" We get asked that a lot and no we probably aren't. My name is Kira. My husband's name is Micah and our son's name is Kendrix. We live in a college town where Micah goes to school and plays football. That college town in Denton, TX, Go Mean Green! I am 20 and Micah is 21. Our son is will be 17 months on Christmas Eve. We got married at 18 and 19 on December 27,2011. Our two year anniversary is coming up fast! I take college classes online while Micah actually goes to class and has to sit through boring things, I bet. While Micah slaves his life away at football everyday, I stay home with our precious baby boy. I love being a stay at home mom and wouldn't have it any other way. How do we get income? School pell grants and loans every semester. Woo Hoo right?

On a day to day basis we hardly get to see Micah when school is in. School from 9:30AM to about 12. Then off to practice at 1 till about 6 then he has study hall around 8 or 9. Yeah, our life is crazy but we still make time for each other. It makes us appreciate the time we do actually get to have together. Kendrix's face just lights up when daddy gets home and it makes me happy when he does come home. We are very lucky to have the life that we have and we owe it all to God. We keep our faith strong and we feel our lives stay intact because of it. Yes, we have rough patches but who doesn't? To everyone out there who married young or had a child young, you have to work for it. Work to keep your marriage alive. Work to keep your relationship with the childs father. Most of all, work to keep your family happy.

Much love
~Kira

My sweet little family.