Would you know how?

If you knew you found the one, would you know what to do or how to keep them around?

 

This world has become so infested with filth every where that it is ruining relationships and marriages. It has now become so easy to cheat with just one text message and then delete it like nothing happened. This world has changed so much over the past few years on outlooks of relationships and marriage and what cheating actually is. My thing is if you are deleting messages or hiding things from your significant other, you are already there. Back in the day you used to just have to worry if the other is having an affair with their secretary at work. Now you have tons of people who don't respect any kind of relationship who think it's ok to message them and tell them how they feel when you shouldn't! Even if the other doesn't find out, you should still feel a ton of guilt. It's sad when one tries so hard to make the other happy and the other doesn't even try.

 

So back to my question, if you knew you found the one, would you know what to d or how to keep them around? Another could be added would you want to keep them around or just screw around on them and make them never wanna be with you again? People don't wait forever especially if you hurt them in any way. Talking to another person of the opposite sex isn't a big deal but don't delete the message and don't talk about things you shouldn't be talking about. Don't get on porn site because that just makes the other person feel degraded and as they aren't doing enough. Don't get on dating websites, which why would you do that in a relationship anyways? Most importantly don't cheat. Physically. It's so sad to see relationships fall apart by all these sad and stupid reasons.

 Life is too short to lose the ones you love over selfish reasons.

 

If you know you've found the one but it's the wrong timing, would you have the guts to tell them the truth? Dragging someone along just for the fun of it isn't fair to the other person. Don't keep them around just because they are happy. If you are unhappy let the person know. Honesty is the best policy. If you know you've found the right one and it's the wrong timing, you're risking losing that person forever.

 

I just like to see happy couples and successful couples. In this day and age it's hard but if you know you found the one, don't lose them and don't hurt them. Losing trust is the hardest thing to get back. A simple hurtful thing can hurt the worst and take years to get back the trust. Think wisely, love deeply, trust strongly, and never lose faith.

 

 

My thoughts for the day :)

 

Much love

~K

a little update

When I became a mother I never thought things would be where they are now. Things honestly changed for the better though. God always knows the plan and I feel like I'm walking in his plan.

There is never a right or wrong time to find or have happiness. Though we should make ourselves happy, others come along and help the happiness as well. When Corey came a long I was NOT looking for anything at all. I think that's when we find the best kind of love is when we aren't looking for it and it just comes a long. I never thought I'd find some thing so great so fast but I'm glad I have and thank God for him every day. I don't have to tell any one how great he is with Kendrix because he just shows it no matter we are or what we're doing. I am not the only one who has found happiness either. Micah is now in a relationship too and couldn't be happier for him and her. I hope she's as good with Kendrix as much as Corey is with him. I think it is important that Kendrix knows the situation and what's going on and be mindful that he is still only 2 years old. We are all happy now and that's all that matters.

It is hard for me to let Kendrix go with his dad any where but that's just a mother thing. I'm used to seeing him 24/7 and now that the divorce is going through it has to be some compromise. I'm the one that has to get that through my head. I'm just glad Kendrix will have multiple happy families to go to.

God has a plan for all of us and his dad and I wasn't in His plan. Now we just have to go a long with our lives always keeping God first and being mindful of Kendrix also. Thank you to all who have stood by our sides through every thing and have never judged us. Co parenting isn't the easiest thing in the world to do but you gotta do it with plenty of communication. It does some times put a strain on some relationships because some do have to put their input but it's always gonna happen that way no matter what. We just try to do the best we can because we can't please every one.

Thanks to all again who understand every thing and stand by us.

Much Love
~K

Life has a funny way of working itself out.

I've had a lot weighing heavy on my mind lately. Lots of random things.

First off, I can't believe Kendrix is already 2! Where in the world has the time gone?! Seems like just yesterday I just found out I was having a boy. Now he's talking like crazy, singing along to songs, and always smiling and laughing. Time sure flies when you're having fun raising a child! Now time for the potty training to somewhat begin. (oh boy)

As I looked back on the last post I posted, I've realized God has a wonderful plan for me. I may not understand it yet but I know I trust in him. Things may not always be as easy as I make it out to be but I know with God's help I can do anything. Thinking about this tough time I'm having just makes me realize how much stronger I'm becoming through it. To me, that's all that matters. Pages have turned and there were lessons learned. 

It takes a lot for someone to admit they're wrong. It also takes a lot for you to forgive someone that has done wrong to you. Forgiving people will make you so much stronger in the end. When you truly forgive someone, you never bring it up again. Forgiveness is never easy.

Trust is never easy either. Once you've lost someones trust, it's the hardest thing ever to get back. I'm not saying impossible but it's pretty hard. If you never give them a reason to not trust you in the first place, then you'll never have to worry. I used to have a lot of trust issues. Now I got the point of I trust you till you give me a reason not to.

When you fall out of love with a person, don't ever give up on love. Just because someone didn't know how to love or hurt you or whatever, don't give up. God has amazing plans a head of you. Even though you think the factors in your life may keep you from love, they won't. If someone loves you and actually know what love means, they will love everything about you. (yes ladies, even the flaws) 

My life had a funny way of working itself out. Kendrix and I are completely happy. I hope Kendrix's dad feels the same about his life. Though we may not be together any more I still hope the very best. That is true forgiveness. 

God knows what he's doing, so TRUST in Him.

Much Love,

~K

Before & When I Became A Mother.

Before I became a mother, I never knew what true love was.

Before I became a mother, I was lost with no direction in life.

Before I became a mother, I never knew sleepless nights.

Before I became a mother, I never knew the pain and suffering I had to go through to get you in this world.

Before I became a mother, I never had been drooled on, spit up on, or thrown up on.

Before I became a mother, I had never been peed on or pooped on multiple times.

Before I became a mother, I never knew the smile on an innocent face could be so beautiful.

Before I became a mother, I never knew what my mom had to go through to raise me, but now I know.

 

Now that I'm a mother, I wouldn't trade any of it for the world.

Watching you grow up and learn new things every day is so rewarding to me. Watching your eyes light up when you learn something new. Watching you run around the house like a maniac. Watching you love the dog and cat and the way you give kisses.

Now that I'm a mother, I've learned a lot about myself and other things. Never give up on yourself or your child. Always fight for what you love. Where you invest your time and love, you invest your life. Always rinse out bottles or they'll be super hard to wash. Always pull the chest strap in the car seat over the chest. Always baby proof the house when they start getting mobile. I've learned that I was walked over a lot but now I finally have the courage to do stuff about it.

Now that I'm a mother, I love deeper.

Now that I'm a mother, I cry when you cry and am in pain when you're in pain.

Now that I'm a mother, I smile when you smile and laugh when you laugh.

Now that I'm a mother, I've grown up a lot. Your needs are greater than my own.

Now that I'm a mother, I want to do every thing for you.

Now that I'm a mother, I never want to let you down.

I hope one day you can understand why I did things the way I did. Why your dad and I didn't work out and why I even left in the first place. I hope I make you proud every day. When you cry for momma, know I'm always right there. I'm never far away. When you give me kisses or sign I love you, you bring tears of joy to my eyes. Know that I always love you son no matter what.

 

 

Much Love!

~K, the mother of one. <3

07/24/2012

Kendrix DeWayne Thompson

9lbs 14oz 22in.

You've blessed me beyond measure, son!

 

Happy Valentine's Day!

Happy Valentine's Day to you all! 

It shouldn't take one day out of the year to show how much you care about the one you love. Yes, flowers and candies are a good gesture but shouldn't you get them more than one time a year? Showing you love someone is much more than just flowers or gifts. Your actions say a lot. When Micah wakes up and takes care of Kendrix for a few more minutes so I can wake up. That's a way you can show you care about someone. He knows how I hard I work at times so he does little things like that to show he cares and appreciates me. The same goes for him. I know he has school and practice so I try to get Kendrix to take his naps around the time he gets out of practice. Playing his favorite video game or just giving random hugs or kisses. 

You don't have to spend money on your love to show you love them. I don't think it should take one day out of the year to show how much you love someone. I think it should be shown all the time. Public and private. Yes, Valentine's day is a very special day to some but I've received Micah's love for about 5 amazing years and he never fails to show me he loves me every day. 

The best way he's ever shown his love for me was giving me our son. Last Valentine's day was Kendrix's first Valentine's day and we went to the Ft. Worth zoo as a family and had a blast. This year we don't really have anything planned and I'm perfectly fine with that. I love sitting around and cuddling with my family. You learn to appreciate the little things.

I hope every one has a great day but remember, show the one you love how much you love and care about them every day. Not just on Valentine's Day! It will mean so much more in the long run.

Much Love,

~K Thompson

 

Be The One..

Be the person you were when your spouse fell in love with you.

When we get married and have children, we seem to forget the person we were when we met our spouse. We get so cause up in our wifely or motherly duties, we forget about our husbands. We forget to do the things that made our spouse fall in love with us. For example, the little things. Sending them a text message during the day to let them know you were thinking about them and that you love them. I know when Micah and I first got together, I used to text him every opportunity I got so he always knew I loved him and was always thinking of him. Making him feel special. During the days now, it's just filled with cleaning and making sure Kendrix is taken care of. I don't text him as much as I used to during the times he's away because I just forget. I get busy. It's kinda sad actually. 

We wait so long to find the man of our dreams. Sadly, we when we find him, we stop doing the things we were doing when we fell in love. Guys are just as guilty at this as we are. I think when Micah and I first got together we seemed to go crazy of each other. I was in such amazement with him over every single thing he did to or for me. I would ALWAYS want to be around him. Always would want to talk to him if we were apart. Always wanted to hear him talk, sing, laugh, or smile. Always wanted to feel his huge arms around me. I've strayed away from all that. Now that we got married, I can honestly say I've forgotten to be the woman I was when we fell in love. I want to get back to that.

We need to get back into doing the little things for our husbands. Saying we love you during the day. Kiss him passionately just because. Jump for joy when they get home. Get sad when they have to leave. Get dressed up for him. Get sexy at night. Make him want YOU. Make him remember why he fell in love with you. You'd be amazed how much your marriage or relationship will change. Stop nagging him constantly. I have to take my own advice on this cause I nag a bunch.. Stop bringing up past situations. Stop being insecure with your self. He chose YOU over every one. You married this wonderful man, so show him you love him and appreciate him. This is your life now, with him. Make it the best it can be so he'll never wanna leave. Make him proud to call you his wife. 

Have a fabulous day!

Much Love,

~K Thompson

Love of my life & I, 3 years ago <3

God Has Blessed Me

First off, it's cold. Don't really know if I can think straight this morning. Just kidding. I gotta cause it's only Kendrix and me in the house. My mom finally comes home tomorrow and I'm so excited! I've missed her so very much. Praying for a safe trip back.

Lots of things have been on my mind today. As I'm watching my sweet innocent child run around messing up the house that I just cleaned, God has blessed me with him. God has blessed me with lots of things. A wonderful family, amazing husband, and some pretty awesome friends. The life that Micah and I live, is anything but ordinary. We travel back and forth between Oklahoma and Texas a lot. Probably more than we should. Micah takes on a lot down in Texas. Not only does he have a family he has to care and provide for, he has a 15 hour class schedule, study hall in the evenings, and football on the daily. If you're wondering how our schedules go, it goes something like this. Monday's we're pretty lucky because he has a night class from 6 to 8:50. During the day we pretty much have him to ourselves except for work outs every week day from 12:30 to around 3. Tuesdays and Thursdays he has class from 8 to about 11. Study hall Tuesday nights and Wednesday nights. Kendrix gets naps based around his schedule because I try to ensure Micah gets as much time as he can with Kendrix. On Tuesdays at our library they have a session called Toddler Time. Kendrix and I go to that with one of our friends who has a little boy a few months younger than Kendrix and her husband was also on the football team. Micah also has a couple of online classes. I also have two online classes I'm taking. I usually do my homework when Kenny takes a nap or when every one has fallen asleep at night. So there is a little day in the life of us. Pretty hectic huh?

Although we have a crazy life, I wouldn't trade it for the world. I love being down in Texas because it's our own life. We don't have any one to depend on but each other. Not our parents just us. I've grown up so much since I moved down there a year ago. Most teens my age don't move that far away from home unless they go to college. I did it so my little family could all be together. Like a good mom and wife should do. God has blessed me with this opportunity to grow stronger in my faith and stronger with my little family. I thank God every day for my husband, son and family. My life is awesome and I owe it all to Him.

Don't forget to thank God for the things you are thankful for. 

Thank you all for reading and supporting us.

Much Love,

~K

Just a little silly pic of us :)

A Letter to Our Son

Even though you're standing in front of me crying because I won't let you have the phone, I love you.

Our lives changed forever on July 24,2012. You came into this world at 8:10 AM by a c-section. Daddy and I were nervous about the c-section but we knew we had to get you into this world somehow. When you came into this world, I had know idea you were as big as you were. 9 lbs 14 oz and 22 in long! You pooped and peed before they could weigh you so I think you probably were about 10 lbs even :) Every one thought I was carrying twins, but you are your dads child so you were gonna be big. When we first saw you, we were amazed. We couldn't believe that we made you. You were made of only our DNA. Daddy's nose mommy's lips. You were perfect. 

Watching you grow has been amazing. From your first smile to crawling at 6 months to walking to talking! It's hard to believe you're a year and a half old. Having you as a toddler is so much fun. Every stage brings something new and it's what keeps us going. You love football just as much as your daddy. Every time you see the North Texas eagle, you say football regardless if it has a football on it or not. You learned how to say North Texas at the Bowl Game for daddy's team. You amaze me how much you pick up so fast. Hopefully you can pick up potty training when we start next week. :) 

Kendrix DeWayne, daddy and I hope you grow up big and strong and learn to love God as much as we do. We love watching you pray. Amazing to think you learned that so quickly by watching daddy and I pray. You are the light of our lives and you completely saved us. You are such a strong willed little boy and I hope that carries on as you grow. You're independent at times but you love your cuddles too. That's mommas favorite thing :) Thank you for being the best little boy we could ever ask for. Thank you for bringing so much joy to ours and other peoples lives. It's hard not to smile when we are with you. Daddy and I hope we can continue to be the best parents we can be for you. Words can't even begin to express our love and care for you. Our families love you too. Gammaw, Granny, PaPa, Poppy, every one loves you. Even the dog :) Always keep that dimple smile on your face and never stop being you. 

WE LOVE YOU & don't you ever forget that.

Love,

~Daddy & Mommy.

A letter to My Husband

I know times right now are hard for us. We get so caught up in taking care of our son, we forget to love each other. Some days are easier than others. I think we tend to forget where we started from and why we are where we are. With out you, I wouldn't have this wonderful life you've given me. 

The definition of us started on a June summer day in 2010 at a theme park called Frontier City in Oklahoma. You were working the wild cat which happened to be my favorite ride. You had your blue shirt sleeves rolled up so I could see your yummy muscles. You flirted with me a bunch. Saying you wouldn't check my seat or opening the door for a beautiful girl. I'm sure you remember what I was wearing because you used to tell me all the time. I was way to shy to ask for your number so my friend did for me and I thought you gave me a fake number. If you would've done that, we wouldn't be anywhere we are now. Luckily it wasn't a fake number and it seemed we were inseparable ever since. 

I have so many wonderful memories with you. I can't wait till we share them with our son. From running over that snake in Jones and your football games your senior year to laying on the truck bed watching the stars with you. My most favorite memory of all was our wedding. Our small but perfect wedding. Our vows, our kiss, our love. As we were bonded together as one I never thought we'd be where we are now. Happy in our little one bedroom apartment in Texas. Another favorite is when our son was born. On July 24, 2012 our lives changed forever. Seeing you hold our little guy melted my heart and I cried happy tears. Then and there I knew you'd be a great father. Thank you for staying with us for two weeks right before two a days started. That really took a lot out of you, I know. 

You do so much for Kendrix and me and we never get the chance to really thank you. We do thank you for all you do for us. You've given us the best life in our situation. Some days I forget how much you do for us. Sometimes when you get home I get happy because I get a break from Kenny but really I should be happy because you are home and I get some time with you. I'm sorry for forgetting little things like that.You are the man that helped create our family and I should never forget that. Without you, I would have nothing. 

Thank you for helping me create our crazy life but I wouldn't have it any other way. If I get to caught up in being a mother, stop me and tell me. Time with you is precious to me because I don't get it very often. Thank you again for all you do for us. You're amazing.

With all this being said, let us not forget the man that helped us create our little ones or the life you have. Let them know you appreciate them today. When they come home be happy and jump in their arms. They'll love it. Don't forget to love your husband just like you did before the kids came along. You didn't make your kiddos alone! Appreciate your spouse for they do a lot for you. I understand getting so caught up in parenting, we forget to do so. Start appreciating today!

Much Love

~K

Snow days

First things first. It is snowy here in Oklahoma. Micah came up for the weekend and was supposed to go home today but ended up getting snowed in here. It's worse down there than here. I'm totally fine with it cause Kendrix and I get more time with him :) 

I love my friends and family. I don't know where I'd be without them. I don't understand how some people can be so mean to family members or friends. I feel like I need my family and friends in my life to survive. I probably would've never gotten my husbands number back then if it wasn't for one of my friends. I was too shy to ask for it. You wouldn't be in this world if it wasn't for your mother. My mom means so much to me and is a huge impact on my life. I hope to be the best mom I can be to my son like my mom was for me. Now that my family has gone out of town for a few weeks, I'm realizing how much I miss them. It's weird not going to their houses whenever I want to and just talking with them. I really do hope they are having a good time though. 

Being in Oklahoma a week without my husband has been miserable. I'm really glad he got snowed in here for a little longer. I know Kendrix loves it too. I just have to make it through this week, then I'll be back home in Texas with my love. Till then I can't wait till my mom and every one gets back. Kendirx and I will just have fun in the snow while they enjoy the warm sun.

I've been spending precious time with my husband and son so that's why I haven't posted in a while. Plus school work is taking lots of free time! Thanks for being patient with me!

Much Love.

~K

When in Doubt...

Pray it Out & Turn to God.

 

Are you having a tough day or can't seem to stop stressing over little things or even big things? I know I do sometimes and have family that does a lot. My solution, turn to God. Give him your problems and have faith that He will help you through. Praying all the time helps me in the worst of situations. I have anxiety really bad. Especially when Kendrix came along. I had never been more scared to do certain things in every day life. It had been a time that I forgot about my faith. I forgot about the one who helps me through so much. I'm pretty sure I had never prayed so hard. Praying hels eliminating your mind from the things you're worried about. Trust me.

 

The Lord died on the cross for you and me so we may have hope of eternal life with Him in Heaven. He wants us to strive to be more like Him every day. Praying, praching His word, leading people to Him. He is the reason we are even here people! Your little child sitting in your lap or playing in his room? God blessed you with that child. He blesses you every day with things you don't even realize you've been blessed with! Your husband or wife? Did you ever pray when you were younger to find the one you've been searching for for so long? I know I did. Especially when it felt all my hopes and dreams were just shattered. I know my husband and son are blessings from God and I thank Him every day for sending them to me. They saved my life.

 

Your little ones will benifit from praying too. My little Kendrix prays all the time with us. It brings tears to my eyes because I know he learned that from watching me. Kids really do watch every thing you do.

 

But seriously people. People need The Lord and it's up to us to lead them there. Praying daily will help you in your day to day struggles. It's actually very theraputic to know you always have someone to talk to. He doesn't talk back but he sure listens. Give Him all your problems and he will help you through them. Don't stray away from the one who gave you life. Be strong in your faith. You know what you're doing. I promise!

 

Much Love

~K

A little something for the young lovers

Every thing in marriage does not come easy. Being a young married couple we know all about that. Having all odds against us and people wanting us to fail is always fresh on my brain.

In our vows we have for better or for worse. When my husband and I got married, he was 19 and I was 18. We had no idea what we were really getting ourselves into. We don't really listen to the vows that are exchanged. We just want the kiss and to be officially married. I get that. We were the same way. Looking back at our vows we have for better or for worse. Vows are sacred and are meant to be kept. When times get tough, we have to stick it out. We are just now learning how to really communicate with each other. When times got tough I used to think divorce would just be so much better. Now that I look at it I was stupid for ever thinking that.

COMMUNICATE with your partner people! When you are angry with your spouse, don't start talking right away. Make a code word and you two go in separate rooms and think about what you're going to say. If you do that, you won't say things you don't mean. Ours is bubbles if any one was wondering. Talk about things as they come to mind unless you're angry. Communication is key for a successful marriage. People aren't kidding when they tell you this.

When you have all odds against you for being a young family, you just want to prove them all wrong. Getting married so young and having a child in the mix sets us up for failure. That's just what people think. We know we're beating all odds. We have been. Micah taking 15 hours of school a semester and everything for football with a child and wife is out of the ordinary. Us moving two and a half hours away from our home town to start our family isn't something you see teen married couples do. I knew moving down to Texas with Micah for school was the best option for our family. We just want what's best for us and our son.

Our marriage is far from perfect but it's my kind of perfect.

Have a wonderful day!
~K